The biggest struggle I come up against daily is the "labeling game". We all play it. I am guilty of it myself and I've made a commitment to fight my unconscious inclination to do so. The way I see it, it sucks being on the side of being labeled. As a server, it's an addicting way of life. As a sociology major, I am appalled to have realized that I did so often, but no more. This nonsense and waste of energy stops now.
It's funny how a negative or absent reaction can change your perception of one person or a personal belief. I have this thing about following up. I worked in the corporate sector for a number of years and responding to emails and voice mails is a huge part of this field. The reality is, you can apply this courtesy in any job or situation. Quite honestly, nothing bugs me more than when I leave three messages for someone (personal or professional) and they fail to return my call. My first reaction is disbelief, followed by anger. Then it's up to me to decide to let it go. You can't change these people and if they don't properly follow up then it's time to move on. I could label you as I've done so in the past, but I choose instead to make more of an effort to ensure I always follow up. It's called taking the negative and turning it into positive reinforcement.
So what is the moral of this blog post? I'd given it the name "untitled" in honor of my stance from here on out to forgo my habit of labeling. We are all set in our ways, maybe it has to do with how you fold your socks or how you hold your wine glass or how you respond to your server's greeting (in reference to the lady over the weekend who kept her eyes fixed on the menu the entire time I spoke to her). For all I know she could have had a horrible week at work or felt intimated by the wine list which caused her and her companion to walk out. Next time I'll make an extended effort to read such a guest and make the experience feel less pretentious.
I recently wrote a friend to tell her I wrote a blog post regarding a recent conversation we shared in mind. It began as an inspiration and grew from there. I was happy with its completion so I thought to share my joy with her. I received no reply. It left me stumped, but eventually I got over it. I believe my post inspired or touched someone else, if not her. We are owners of our time, moving forward you can decide how to delegate yours. Don't dwell on past incidents when the present is much more valuable and invites new opportunities to grow.
Whatever is true and noble - think about such things. If you fill your mind with positive thoughts, the need to label people or fret over uncontrollable situations will leave you. Life's too short to think of such titles. Look ahead, turn the corner and take a few steps...I feel confident when I say it will lead you to areas that attract the same mind sets and concerns. You will find others that will respond and show interest in what you have to say. Then suddenly this repeated lesson learned won't matter as much and you'll realize you've grown up.
We don't need a world of titles, we need a world that cares. Make that change. It'll bring on contagion - and in this day and age, we need it more now then ever.